I'm not surprised my wife and I received some anonymous comments outing us.
Anonymous, 12/4/2012 said: [My real name],
[my wife's real name] makes it very easy to find your sister, which in turn leads to
your mother, which in turn leads to you and [wife's real name]. Cyber-crumbs are so
easy to follow. If your going to dissect your sister like a lab rat, at
least have the courtesy to do a better job of protecting her anon state,
just like you and [wife's real name] try to do for yourselves. You are being
hypocrites otherwise. PS
[wife's real name] does not come off sounding as though she practices unconditional
love. She sounds more like a mean girl mocking a troubled girl. She
sounds like a cyber bully looking for approval of her own low self
esteem. Kind of sad. on It's Not My Fault
Anon, you are wrong.
Do you think that my wife and I don't share what goes on our blogs? Our posts and the comments we get? Tattling on my wife does you no good since I'm already aware of everything that goes up on her blog, and she on mine.
The person you describe in your comment more accurately portrays my mother, not my wife. Without a doubt, you haven't a clue what my wife is actually like or who she is, but you don't care to either do you? You're blind to all the shit my FOO has subjected her to, all the attacks, just so you can have your little show on here. You're a coward and a maggot, a slimy, crusty little creature with nothing but excrement in your veins. You slither and slink your way through life as you chastise my wife for speaking the truth. Cut the shit. Where my wife chooses to love, she does unconditionally, and fuck you for saying otherwise. She doesn't expect her children to owe her anything. She loves them, cares for them, nurtures them simply because they are her children. You are contemptuous for no other reason than to attack my wife for speaking truth. Why are you so intent on pretending to defend my sister and my mother? Hit a nerve have we? My wife does not waiver in her beliefs, her commitments to me or her children, her commitments to herself. This is not a sign of a weak or of a woman who lacks self-esteem. She radiates confidence, her demeanor speaks to this, as does it to compassion, a trait which she also possesses but that you refuse to see - my wife's letter to my sister is just one example. A "mean girl" would not reach out to my sister as my wife did. A "mean girl" would not be empathetic to her. A "mean girl" would not offer support as my wife did. The only bully I see here is you. My wife's actions don't fit with your preconceived notions of her but you have never bothered to take the time to consider that.
Don't bother digging your head out of your ass though, I don't want your shit-stained vision anywhere near me or my wife. And what's "sad" here is not my the woman I love, but your projection of low-self esteem - your constant need of approval from my mother. That's why you made these comments. Because you're using my sister, just like the rest of my NM's fucked up followers. Your "defense" of her is just an attempt to garner approval, to win some brownie points from the All-mighty Parasite Queen herself. I can see you've come in with sides already taken, with preconceived
notions. You didn't bother considering anything else. People like you see what you
want to see, no matter what you've been reading. That, or you know where to
go to get the information that will only make you look good and
my wife look bad. To you, and to the rest of my FOO, my wife is
villain: loving, articulate, intelligent, honest, righteous,
courageous. All the things you, and they are not. All the things you all pretend to be.
My wife is Loving - I have seen her pain when her kids are deeply upset or hurt, or
hell, even when other children are upset or hurt; I have seen her whole self light up and be genuinely happy right along with her kids when they are happy or excited about something- a drawing, finding a toy, singing, whatever. Her eyes light up when they come in the room. Her eyes light up for them, just because they are who they are.
My wife is as strong as they come - Sure, continue to hang
on to that notion that SHE'S the one lacking self-esteem, as she bolsters her
children's spirit with praise and pride. A mother with no self-esteem
raises children like my sister and I. My wife never backs down, she never gives up. She fights for what is right, she fights for those she loves. She fights in the face of bullies and cowards who just want to tear her down. And she keeps going.
My wife is Articulate and Intelligent - her opinions are always backed with research and well thought-out reasons, never presented with condescension or condemnation, but with clarity and supporting information; we are no strangers to lengthy discussions.
My wife is Honest - She calls it as she sees it, she holds on to the Truth, even when assholes like you come along and try to shut her down. She works harder than most to be honest with herself, never fearing self-reflection. She does not ask of others what she does not expect of herself.
My wife is Righteous - She knows right from wrong, holds steadfast to her morals, knows it's wrong to be treated like shit and do nothing about it, or to demand respect without earning it. Her moral compass is correctly calibrated. She'll stand up for herself, her family where she sees fit. Provoke the Mama Bear, and you will get mauled. Count on it.
My wife is Courageous - None but a courageous woman would still be standing, and fight back after the onslaught my FOO so graciously provided. Indeed, to fight for a marriage with an ACON is to be nothing but truly strong and courageous. To be blind to this fact is downright disgusting and disgraceful, not only to my wife, but to those who've endured similar challenges.
I imagine: Anon the peon addressing Queen Parasite: "Look look look! I said words! Did I do a good job, did I, did I? Huh, huh, tell me, didn't I do it so good for you? Oh oh, tell me I did!" Anon, you don't actually have to say that to say that.
So here it is, you asshole: Fuck off. You're nothing but a puss-filled blister. Crash-test dummies are more human than you are.
In all seriousness, you can keep my mother and her delusions. You can have them. Good luck with that.